Ten Traits That Will Help You Be An Alpha male

The name’s Bond, James Bond. Now here is something that just about every guy has said in his life. Why? Because, this iconic movie character portrays all the characteristics and traits that make up an alpha male. This line might not look like much on paper, but when heard from the man himself, it just oozes confidence and swag.

Just so we are clear, an alpha male is NOT a buff, overly dominant, aggressive one-upper that obnoxiously puts others down to make himself appear to be superior. These men are simply just jerks and or douchebags. He is instead someone who can communicate his dominance more subtly, and in the process, make others feel as if it were a gift to be in his presence.

So just how exactly does one go about learning how to be a man that his peers admire and the women flock to? Easy, you just have to adopt these characteristics and apply them to your every day life.

So let’s take a look at them.

1. Confidence

Now we all knew this was going to be on the list and quite frankly, it deserves an article all to its self. To keep things plain and simple, alpha males exude confidence in just about everything they do because they are self-assured. They believe in their own abilities and know that there is no such thing as failure, as long as they gave it their best effort. Confidence is really just an attitude that one has toward life. It builds upon itself through practice and experience. One of the easiest ways to develop self confidence, is to fake it til you make it. In other words, mimic the language, mannerisms, and behaviors of a confident person, and you will soon start to see just how easy it is.

2. Indifference

Have you ever noticed how nonchalant or unconcerned an alpha male appears to be? On the surface they may seem careless but in reality, they are careFREE. This is one of the main reasons why they have beautiful women surrounding them. Women of high caliber are used to being put on pedestals and treated like goddesses. But an alpha male on the other hand, doesn’t treat them any differently because of their looks. He is completely indifferent toward them in general and demonstrates how he is just fine with or without them. This indifference is what draws not only women, but people in general toward an alpha male. We are constantly trying to get people to like us and will try even harder when we feel we are failing. So be the one being chased instead of the chaser.

3. Valuable

The ideal man knows his worth and doesn’t seek validation from others to feel it. He knows he is valuable and wears that price tag everywhere he goes. These days, men only feel accomplished after a major success or after they score with a woman. The other 80% of the time, they are looking for reasons to prove their value to everyone. An alpha male doesn’t need to prove anything to anyone and stores his worth intrinsically. He’s the man that shows up to a job interview not afraid to ask for a higher salary, because he knows that he can and will deliver something that no other man can.

 4. Humorous

Being an alpha male doesn’t mean you have to walk around like a tough guy with a straight face all the time. It’s actually quite the opposite. A man who knows how to work a room and deliver a well timed joke is usually seeing as not only attractive, but as a leader. See, telling a joke takes some guts. There is the chance that your joke will bomb and you will have run the risk of lowering your social value. An alpha male understands this and uses it to his advantage. That is why he takes the time to understand the intricacies of humor so that the next time he is at a social gathering, people will remember who had them laughing the whole night.

5. Fitness/Coordination

As previously mentioned, being super ripped is not a qualification for being an alpha male. In fact, there are plenty of guys who aren’t at all physically fit who would still be considered as alpha males. However, there is a certain degree of fitness and coordination that should still be met. James Bond wasn’t seen entering a room knocking over tables and people’s drinks was he? No. He was in control of his every move. He moved with purpose and efficiency. When things got dangerous, he was either able to run like hell, or defend himself. The point is that his body was in one way or another a tool that he could count on at any point in time.

6. Ability to build sexual tension

Another reason why alpha males are so good with women is because they know how to build sexual tension. They do this by taking a normal interaction and creating a sense of romance or sensuality out of it. Their confidence and charisma is unrelenting and captures the imagination of the woman they are talking to. These men know how to push a woman’s buttons in just the right way. An alpha male is unapologetic for his sexual presence and offers the opportunity for a woman to be swept off her feet.

7. Courageous

Being courageous doesn’t mean that you don’t feel fear. It means exercising the ability to push that fear aside and rise above whatever obstacle you are facing. Alpha males push themselves to break out of their comfort zone and face fears on a daily basis. This makes them comfortable with the uncomfortable. Once they desensitize themselves to the feeling of fear, it becomes increasingly easy for them to perform courageous acts.

8. Bold

Sometimes certain things need to be said. Nobody wants to step up to the plate, so in comes the alpha male. They are the ones who are willing to tell people how they really feel. They will tell it like it is in an unduly and forward fashion. Beating around the bush and pussyfooting is for the average joe. It is this brazen attitude that seperates the alpha male. In many cases though, this approach to life isn’t just desired but necessary.

9. Poised

An alpha male is a graceful creature. He has an elegant bearing and navigates through life with precision and fluidity. His undoubted belief in himself isn’t flaunted but instead harnessed. This makes him somewhat elusive. It is almost like he has something up his sleeve that he is waiting to pull out. It’s for this reason that he should never be underestimated. This total lack of anxiousness and nerve is what makes an alpha male a smooth operator.

10. Mysterious

The alpha male always keeps people guessing. When someone has unanswered questions, what do they do? They inquire about that particular subject. They go around asking their friends and peers in order to gather more information. A man who doesn’t reveal himself all at once, leaves the opportunity for people to do just that. He puts on a spectacle and then just like that, he vanishes. Then there is nothing left but a grand image of that man and all the wonders of the people who witnessed him.